Unconditional Love | Spiritual Development
“Be the change you want to see in the world,” said Gandhi. And I agree with him.
But can you be the change . . . can you help provide the andictote, when the ailment is a lack of unconditional love? Can I? Can any of us?
I believe we can all learn how to love unconditionally. I also know it is not an easy endeavor.
Unconditional love is just as demanding as it is liberating. It requires us to let go of what we believe is important to us in order to take hold of what we know is more important than us.
Unconditional love begs us to embrace what we cannot understand. It comforts us and makes us ache, at the same time.
“And what if I give my love unconditionally and it is not returned?,” the psyche asks.
The wise old soul responds, “What IF your unconditional love is not returned? Would you withhold it? If so, then you are not loving unconditionally. For unconditional love is love without conditions.”
I can’t speak for you; but I, for one, would like to punch my soul in the nose sometimes. Especially when I know it’s inconveniently correct. Unconditional love might not be easy or convenient, but it is what I am meant to experience in this lifetime (experience in the giving and in the receiving). I know as much, on a level much deeper than I can explain.
I believe it is the same for all of us.
What I have discovered is that unconditional love is often given and returned in mysterious ways. And it isn’t always beautiful or magical. To the contrary, unconditional love can be quite rough around the edges. But it’s a kind of love that keeps coming back around, and growing in intensity, just when the lovers are weak and exhausted by the loving.
Whether it is shared with a family member, a friend, or our Beloved, unconditional love requires us to be bolder, stronger, wiser, and more courageous than we ever thought we could be. It asks us to look inside ourselves for the starting point of change, when change is what is needed. And unconditional love demands that we not rest in blame or make excuses for why loving unconditionally might not be justified, in this instance.
It’s a pretty tough job to love someone unconditionally. Simultaneously, it is an exquisite form of ecstasy to be loved by someone unconditionally. Perhaps, the key to learning how to love unconditionally is to try our best to “do unto others as we would have them do unto us.” Maybe, the golden rule is the golden key.
Today, I would encourage you to keep moving in the direction of unconditional love, even when the tide is high and your strength is withering. Relax, take a deep breath, and pray. Know that you will make it to shore, if you just keep swimming.
Imagine that you and your loved one are one and the same, because you are.
Be gentle with yourself and everyone you love, as you all work toward a more complete understanding of unconditional love. Be willing to believe that unconditional love conquers, cures, and elevates all. And remember that, to change the world you live in, you must first change yourself.