Are You a Highly Sensitive Problem Solver?

A point I always emphasize about expanding consciousness is that we need to stay on the lookout for our consciousness blind spots.

Whether you’re driving a car or playing football or just going about your daily business in Life, you have blind spots. Blind spots are things that are too close for us to see (like the car driving so close to us that it’s not visible in our rear view mirrors).

Consciousness blind spots are the psychological and energetic patterns we hold within our psyche (mind + body) but can’t see within ourselves.

At least, we can’t see what’s in our blind spots until we make an effort to look closer.

Blind spots are the unconscious (or subconscious) habits, beliefs, thought patterns, and emotional memories we aren’t quite fully aware of in the moment; but they can dramatically affect the choices we’re making anyway. Sometimes, what’s in the blind spot is a good thing and, sometimes, it is not.

Contrary to popular opinion and what many spiritual teachers are teaching today, what lies in the unconscious  “shadow” is not always bad or negative. 

Shadow content is nothing more than what is hidden from the light of our awareness. It’s what we can’t see clearly about ourselves because it’s buried so deeply inside us or exiled from our awareness (at least until we choose to shine the light of awareness on it). What lies mostly in the shadow is usually those aspects of ourself or particular traits we’ve decided at some point were not unacceptable (or that it wouldn’t be safe to let the world see). 

For example: A person who seems to be tough and cold may actually have a tender, sweet child hidden inside their shadow. The child may have been hidden in the shadowlands of that person’s mind because it was the only place where the child could be safe from the world or from an abusive family. Do you get the point? Not everything that is hidden within us is “bad” or dark in a negative sense.

Darkness is nothing more than the absence of light. I hope you’ll keep that in mind anytime you’re working with your own shadow or trying to understand someone else’s shadow.

Everything that is contained within the personal unconscious was deposited there by the conscious mind for good reason (or so we “thought” at the time). The problems we encounter in Life because of subconscious self-sabotage are usually because (1) there was an error in our thinking when we originally adopted a particular belief (consciously or unconsciously); OR (2) our situation/circumstances/experiences changed but we held onto old, stale ideas and beliefs long after they stopped serving us.

An example of the latter might be a belief adopted in childhood that “speaking up will get me punished.” That belief may have been true at one time (either in a person’s family or school environment); but the belief ceased to be true once that person reached the age of 18 and had full control over his/her own life. The inability to see that the belief was hidden within could stop that person from thriving as a public speaker or even effectively participating in a business meeting.

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As a Highly Sensitive Person and Clairsentient Empath myself, I believe it’s particularly important for HSPs to be on the lookout for our own blind spots. It’s imperative that we reach a level of self-awareness and active consciousness that allows us to realize when we’re making choices from one of our consciousness blind spots.

Highly Sensitive People Always Want to Help

We are so sensitive to subtle energies, occasionally telepathic, and intelligently aware of what’s happening around us that the amount of data we’re processing at any given time is phenomenal. Yes, I mean that literally – phenomenal.

We must commit to becoming more and more deeply aware of what lies within us so that we can return to our own center (our inner sanctuary) when the world, or even one person, begins overwhelming us energetically.

We may not be able to see what’s in the blind spot right away, but an HSP can sense anything that’s in his/her personal field, at any given time, more readily than most. We need to own that ability and to take responsibility for it (for our own benefit and the benefit of others).

One example of a blind spot many HSPs share in common is our need to be problem solvers. Because we can “see” or sense what the problem is, we have a tendency to want to solve it. We can feel other people’s pain and, when that happens, the data processors in our highly sensitive minds kick into overdrive. We want to help that person solve their problem as soon as possible. We want them to feel safe and happy again. We need to at least try to end their pain.

That’s what we HSPs have a tendency to do. Why? By my estimation, it’s because we can.

HSPs have the unique ability to recognize the needs of others and to sense exactly what is necessary to meet the need. Just because we can do something, however, does not always mean we should do it.

Wanting to help too much can really hurt YOU.

Because of this same ability, HSPs are more likely to engage in acts of self-sacrifice (putting others’ needs before our own), which always leads to either unconscious self-loathing or resentment of others. Also, when we engage in too much care taking, we end up taking away other people’s power.

Whether he or she realizes it or not, that person you love and “take care of” has the ability to meet their own needs (at least if he or she is mostly healthy). When you do what someone else is capable of doing for themselves, you send the message to them and to the Universe that this person is somehow inferior and incapable of exercising their own power.

Look at it this way and you’ll change.

That kind of dis-empowering behavior is no good for anyone. At the end of the day, we aren’t really helping anyone by taking responsibility for solving their problems. It’s a tough pill for the good-hearted, compassionate HSP to swallow; but it’s good medicine nonetheless.

Moreover, when the bulk of our attention is on making choices for other people and their lives (which is what solving other people’s problems is really all about), then we’re not paying adequate attention to the choices we need to be making for our own lives. We’re not taking good care of ourselves. Guess what happens when we refuse to take good care of ourselves?

Well, we get sick or financially unstable or depressed or all of the above. And, if that goes on too long, eventually someone else will have to take care of us or we’ll be left alone in a weakened state to fend for ourselves.

Again, none of that is any good for anyone.

So, today, I want to encourage you to take a good look within yourself and to determine whether being a “problem solver” is one of your blind spots.

If so, spend some time in meditation and contemplation realizing where that tendency came from and changing what needs to change within you to be free of that particular shadow aspect.

We are all divine. We are all capable of solving our own problems (one way or another). Yes, it is wonderful and often necessary for us to get help along the way; and it’s good and necessary for us to help others along the way. Helping is different than taking over and controlling, however.

We are all in this great drama we call Life together; and, at the same time, we are each on a solo journey.  We each have our own free will and the right AND responsibility to exercise it. We must each make our own choices and live our own lives if we are to be free.

You deserve to be free and so does everyone else you know.

Resist taking over other people’s problems by making choices for them. Step out of being a highly sensitive problem solver, if that’s what you’re in the habit of doing. Honor each and every person you know as a sovereign being. Trust SPIRIT to support others in their free will choice making and you do the same. You and everyone you know will be happier for it.

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